Is your relationship 50/50?
Is your relationship part old and part new?
Are you still hanging onto the old or is everything new?
Please read Mat. 9:16-17
Vs. 16 “No one sews a patch of un-shrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch will pull away from the garment, making the tear worse. Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.”
Jesus came to make ALL things new. In simple terms that means the system by which we are saved and live as well, although most churches won’t tell you that. In this passage Christ clearly said you cant have the old And the new. The old system is the law talked about throughout the Bible as the old covenant. The new covenant which was brought in by Christ called for “mercy not sacrifice” because He was the sacrifice.
Please look at Mat. 9:13
Vs. 13 “But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
Are you still following some code or rule book for your righteousness?
Do you know that there is a new covenant between you and God which calls for only LOVE?
No amount of work or effort or activity that you perform will ever make you more holy. The only way to have holiness is to realize you can never hope to be holy unless you follow Christ and trust in Him to make you holy. Don’t try to pour new wine or the new covenant into old wineskins.
The law is the old garment talked about in vs. 16 and you cant put a patch on it or you will always have an awkward life at the very best. The more law you follow the more mistakes you will make guaranteed.
Why?
Simple because the law was created to make you mess up. The law was created to make sure we are all equally screwed. This is the blessing of the law it makes us look to the only hope. The law forces us to look to the only source for true Holiness which is Christ and in this New Source of true Holiness is Everything!!
If we want to be holy as He is holy then Grace is the only solution.

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