Are you defeated?
What is it that holds you back from life and loving?
Could it be that you are already defeated because of something that could be changed by changing what you believe?
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies.” – Romans 8:31-33
Sooner or later in life we have to make some tough choices. Delay causes pain and compounds the difficulty of the choice in many cases.
The path and the Love from Above has been laid out in this passage but even accepting Christ and accepting grace doesnt mean all your pain will be taken away in the instant you accept Him. Why?
I believe its because we have to open our minds and realize something about our self and grow through much of the pain. Perhaps we need to look at some root causes of pain and that is the reason why God allows the pain to continue.
Let me ask you this question is it more loving for a father to give all the answers or for a father to provide tools to find the answers and in so doing teach the tool so that the learner can have that and show another?
Is it better to have an instant solution or to understand the problem and in so doing be able to help others?
Ask yourself this question in your emotional pain and distress- “What do I need to learn from this pain to be more loving and help another?” Perhaps you will learn self forgiveness or meditation. Perhaps you will learn to forgive others and in so doing ease your grasp of the past. Perhaps you will learn that grasping the past or grasping the future causes pain either way so God lives here and now.
Your power to live and Love Here and Now is based on your knowledge of His Love for you and so is today’s meditation:
Find a quiet spot where you wont be disturbed and close your eyes. After a couple of cleansing deep breaths get a picture in your mind of Christ rising from the grave and have him sit down next to you and hold your hand as He does:
Breathe in and say:
“He Graciously gives”
Breathe out and say:
“All things”
Practice this till you get that the current slump or pain that you feel is His unique gift to you at this exact moment for a reason! Find the reason and find the healing!

Perhaps the reason you are where you are is so God can show you what this looks like so you wont judge others!
God already knows our need, we need just to realize just what that need is.
Amen to that Brother!
What is God trying to teach me in this very moment? – Best question for those between a rock and a hard place moments!